I’m embarrassed to mention that I have not used Google Hangouts as much as I wanted to and realized how cool Google Hangouts are. Just had a short mastermind(Google Hangout) meeting with Brian Owens and Paul Wegrzyn from Freedom Fast Lane, where we’ve been coaches to many internet marketing newbies for almost 8-9 months. Masterminding with Brian and Paul has been amazing and humbling because they are like tribe leaders in their own field of internet expertise. Brian is really a sharp marketer. He’s able to distinguish trends and pry open traffic opportunities and Paul is a SEO expert. Both are extremely down to earth and fun to be with.
I’m also currently reading Linchpin by Seth Godin. It’s a book that basically describes that you shouldn’t be a cog in a wheel. Extract creativity, create, create, create and add value to the world as compared to just being part of a cog in a big machine. We have to be more than functional machines, we have to believe in our art and promote our art as much as possible.
The question is, have I been contributing to the masses as much as I should have and when will I challenge myself to go beyond just one-on-one consulting to one-to-many consulting. I’d love to grow in this area of sharing, communicating and building rapport with a group of people who will resonate together with my message and inspire others to grow and be amazing as well.
I have a confession. My confession is that, I’m really shy. Seth Godin says that this is my “lizard brain” the fight or flight mechanism that was useful for us when we were cavemen. The survival brain. Fear. Fear of death. I realized that my lizard brain needs to go. It needs to find a place elsewhere because it is creating a barrier for me.
Seth said that the lizard brain also hates public speaking. The lizard brain creates resistance in my mind. There’s no need to fear this resistance. In fact, there’s no point fearing for my life to say the least. But right as I’m posting this blog post, I’m back spacing sentences thinking that what if someone reads this and think that this blog post was crap and everyone would laugh at me for trying? That’s the inner voice of my lizard brain.
WHO CARES? Seth puts it that if I cared and allowed such “voices” to enter my mind and diminishes my potential, then that would have been really bad. In fact he mentioned that many times, he had ideas that were just sweeping thoughts. Thoughts that just occurred and would in a second be a forgotten idea, lost in translation via our brain. If he didn’t capture those thoughts and put it down on some piece of paper and organized it, then he would have lost an opportunity to spread his “art”, his “creation” to the world which could potentially change lives.
I have another confession to make. I am a people pleaser. I hate saying no and I hate to disappoint. I’m great at customer support, I love people and in fact go along well with most people. But Seth puts it in a way that caught my attention. I can’t please everyone. I know this very well but something inside me says that this is my strength. It’s known as Acts of Service. I love serving. But one thing I can tweak and I’m learning this very rapidly, that is to be able to decline, say NO and be a semi-jerk. That really helps with peace of mind sometimes. It’s time to step up. I know friends who read this would say that I’m just great the way I already am and as a Christian, I know that Jesus has already accepted me for who I am. But I know that the Lord will use me for greater things.
At the end of this month of October, I will be turning 26. It’s time to get serious. It’s time to conquer and divide again. It’s time to grow some gold balls and brave through some uncharted terrain. I’m constantly making myself uncomfortable. Everyday.
This year, I’ve made myself uncomfortable at all levels. Physically, mentally, emotionally. I’m working on the spiritual part. I’m getting there.
Physically, I could barely push 7 push ups. But now I do 20, easily. I could barely do a chin up or even a pull up. Now, I can do it with effort and I’m pretty proud to be able to accomplish that given that I’ve been pretty much a sit-on-my-chair-for-6-hours-straight-kind-of-guy.
Mentally, I’ve stretched myself by putting myself in front of a group of people and accepting that public speaking is a great way to grow. I love teaching, not as a teacher but as in sharing my thoughts and ideas that can help people. I’ve also closed a bunch of sales, amounting to almost $20,000 USD by calling leads in a time span of two weeks. Calling leads, now that’s scary for me. I’ve sold many products online but calling, that was a different strategy altogether. I would have listened to my lizard brain and avoided calling but I mustered strength and read as many books as I could on closing sales and being an effective communicator on the phone. I’m pretty proud that I was able to accomplish that. Disclaimer, I didn’t pocket the $20k. Someone else did. I accepted an impossible challenge which my lizard brain said, run. RUN as fast as you can. But my personal self said, I will embrace this change and take up the challenge and learn the necessary skills to perform and gain results.
Emotionally. I married my long time girlfriend of 6 years. We were in a long distance relationship for just as long as we dated. To get to where I am today, it was nothing short of difficult. Buckets of tears, several heartbroken moments, many laughters and memorable memories later, I’m having the blast of my life, loving my wife and bonding with her after being apart for so long. It’s been almost 18 months since I left the USA for Malaysia and I’ve not regretted it. Being stretched in a relationship where most people would have given up in their first or second year, I’ve taken it a few years later and now, I’m thinking to author a book with my wife on how we did it and how we can help other people do it as well. The thing is this stretch of time while being in a long distance relationship is not for everyone. But we have been very fortunate to have had supportive friends and family. Then again, we had our share of naysayers and onlookers who were watching us while we were in the frontlines of the long distance relationship.
Spiritually. My dad, he is a preacher. A pastor. My mentor. A constant reminder to me that reading my Bible, praying and seeking the Lord in all that I do. My dad is almost always concerned about my journey with Jesus. There’s a good reason for that. Walking with Jesus is a consistent effort. It’s an on-going journey. It’s a habit to be developed, a lifestyle and a form of discipline. It’s a relationship with Jesus.
And now, with all that said and done. I think I’m done here for now. Talk soon!